Today I entered a new decade of life. Thirty. The big 3-0. Over the proverbial hill – though more hills await in ten, twenty, thirty more years – and am I any older or wiser? I never thought I would have a problem with aging, at least not this early in the game. Well, I can’t really say that I do have a problem. I feel like my life is pretty much what I had hoped it would be by this age: marriage, motherhood, and the end of my graduate studies in sight. That said, I would like to think that I could manage to live to the age of 90, in which case I’d have to live my entire life over – twice! - before I die. So … that’s a comfort.
30 things I’ve learned by the age of 30-
- Books make great companions.
- We all love at least one asshole. Try not to love two (or more) assholes.
- Don’t let above-mentioned asshole define you. In fact, don’t let anyone else define you.
- If you must make mistakes (and you will) LEARN FROM THEM!
- Spend time alone and get to know yourself.
- Going to Disneyland alone is amazing!
- Positive thinking manifests positive energy which manifests positive results. The same applies to negative thinking – so don’t go there!
- Treat others the way you want to be treated. Seriously.
- Don’t lend friends money. It just ends badly, even if you happen to get the money back (and sometimes you don’t). No friendship needs that kind of strain.
- Get EVERYTHING in writing. Before it happens. (see #9)
- It’s OK to dump toxic people. (see #7)
- Other people will have opinions of you, much like you have opinions of them. Guess what? It’s none of your business what they think of you.
- Massage is a great gift … receive it often.
- Spend time to experience a bit of life before you decide what you want to do with the rest of it.
- Life is long enough that you can be more than one thing, but short enough that you need to get to it already.
- Hugging trees is fun!
- Bodies are amazing, versatile, and can endure a hell of a lot.
- Travel.
- Keep learning. Teach yourself to do things.
- Go outside your comfort zone.
- Breath deeply.
- Eat a lot of greasy carbs before a night of heavy drinking.
- Sunscreen works!
- Love is going to hurt some of the time, so find someone who is worth hurting for.
- Food is medicine.
- If you ever think to yourself “Oh, so-and-so seems like a great person, but I’d hate to be on his/her bad side!” you should get away from that person AS FAST AS YOU CAN! Avoid those relationships.
- Nature can and will heal you, if you let it.
- It’s okay to say “I don’t know”.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Be gentle with yourself.
- I know what I know. I know that there are things I don’t know … but I have yet to comprehend all the things I don’t know I don’t know.







